What we expect is important because it highly influences what we see. We "find what we're looking for" makes easy sense when we're conscious of what we're looking for, but we fail to understand that an unconscious "looking for" in the sense of expecting is just as powerful.

Immanuel Kant, German philosopher highly influential, especially in the field of ethics (he was a One on the Enneagram), writes as follows:

The world as we know it is a construction, a finished product, almost--one might say--a manufactured article to which the mind contributes by its moulding form as the thing contributes by its stimuli."

If you know your enneagram style, you might think about what your usual expectations are and then look around you and see if your life reflects that.